Once upon a time, I had this strange idea that success (a word that everybody needs to define for themselves) was a straight line. For some reason, school and university hadn’t prepared me for real life. What I learned holds in a few words: a meaningful life happens when you rub yourself to people, to challenges, to adversity and when out of discomfort comes growth.
The Why
It took me several slaps in the face thrown by life, the kind of really heavy ones, to fully grasp what Virginia Satir used to say: life is not what you want it to be, life is what it is. My worst year was my best year, as it totally opened my mind and consciousness: the penny dropped just like when you hit the jackpot. Does it mean I have it all figured out ? Hell, no !
I am convinced that life is about learning, as discouraging as it may seem in a society where we want it all, right now and without any hurdles, and learning takes patience. Yes, some people have an easier life than others but what’s the use of comparing ? Your happiness depends on how you handle adversity while reaching for your dreams as little or as big as they may be, and the joy you experience while reaching your potential.
None of us have it all figured out. Those of us who want to grow and don’t settle for less, test and trial on a regular basis. Out of this experience we learn. To me what I learned is what I want to transmit. Some people will find value in it and test and trial themselves, some not, for whatever the reason may be and it’s fine. My mission is to transmit my learnings, hopefully open your eyes and your consciousness to new horizons through your own inner process. This is the best way I know how to contribute to a better world.
If we can have an Apple why not a Banana right ? So I created The Banana Company , which usually puts a smile on people’s face. I started my personal training 30 years ago with Tony Robbins in the US, studied NLP with Robert Dilts and Judith Delozier at USC, studied the basis of Brief Systemic Therapy at the Bateson Institute, and finally looked at the brighter side of it all with Happiness Harvard former professor Tal Ben Shahar and Resilience expert Maria Sirois PhD. Irvin Yalom and Carl Rogers have inspired my relational approach with my clients. Because learning is so important to me I continuously educate myself through books and courses. Last but not least, hours of supervision have helped me grow tremendously to better serve you.
I coach and train in French, English, Spanish and Italian. In Brussels or wherever the client needs me and through Skype. I give courses through E-Learning as well.
PS: when you pick a coach, please do your research. I have chosen not to be part of the IFC and therefore have trained myself with some of the best people at the heart of this discipline. I have many hours of personal development through my trainings and personal test and trial experiences, like Robert Dilts would say: you need to have it in your muscles. Finally I have an outstanding supervisor. A coach who doesn’t have a supervisor is not someone you should put your trust in. Check their values too. Coaching, transmitting, training is a serious responsibility: not projecting, integrity and confidentiality are non-negotiable.